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This is a community with a mission to improve online dating by providing people with services other than messaging and matching.
We are a group of people attempting to change online dating for the better. We want to build a dating community where people meet each other based on merits and traits discovered through real interactions rather than relying on obscure matching algorithms. We believe that the current crop of dating sites (eharmony, okcupid, plenty of fish, and the many others) have the whole “meeting new people” thing backward. When searching for a match, people read through self described characteristics about others as if said characteristics are what makes us attractive. Shouldn’t our actions and interactions with people ultimately decide the status of current and future relationships?
Actions and Algorithms
We want people to meet based more on the actions of people in the community rather than their self descriptions.
When signing up for dating services, people are asked to provide a description of what they are. What’s your religion? What’s your hair color? Do you read books? How often do you drink alcohol? Do you like to skateboard? You get the point. These are merely attributes that describe what someone is and does not provide a potential friend or companion any clue of who someone is. And that’s where we see an opportunity to change some things. We want to build up a community without an intense focus on the various colors of different parts of one’s body, their height, how often they read, and other wholly unimportant traits.
Interactions and Engagement
Strong relationships are driven from actions and interactions between people. Self descriptions and reading profiles have many limitations.
We say “unimportant” because we think that these self-provided descriptions are secondary to becoming colleagues, acquaintances, friends, or lovers. We (at twolips) are personally guilty of avoiding people based on descriptions that don’t match our preconceived notions of what we think we want. We’ve come to believe that it simply isn’t fair. It isn’t fair to ourselves and it isn’t fair to potential friends that we’ve discarded before giving balanced treatment. Instead of concentrating on these superficial descriptions for purposes of utilizing “advanced proprietary matching algorithms” or some equally fancy title, we want to build a place where people interact with each other to achieve goals together.
Plenty of Work Ahead
This site is still in its early stages and we totally encourage early adopters to help us out. Our goal is to provide fun interactions between people.
So where do we begin? We’re in the process of building this site to give people a place to show off who they are. But what’s that really mean? We’re still in the process of figuring it out, but we have some fun ideas. Social networks provide an excellent opportunity for people to interact, communicate, and learn about each other based on a user’s actions and networking history. By viewing a user’s social profile littered with achievements and action-driven rewards, it’s easy to figure out who someone really is and if we might get along with them.
We Want You to Grow with Us
Help us build a community of challenges, games, and activities to encourage people to meet based on merits and skills.
That’s just the beginning. We want this site to eventually provide opportunities for people to meet through online challenges, games, and other interactive activities. Maybe you’ll participate in a two person activity with someone. Further, maybe that person will turn out to be a really good friend that you would have otherwise avoided based on superficial descriptions. Who would have thought that you would be attracted to someone with a clown obsession even though you were traumatized as a kid by clowns?